Why (not) get married?

Matthew 19:3-12

3 One day the Pharisees were badgering him: "Is it legal for a man to divorce his wife for any reason?" 4 He answered, "Haven't you read in your Bible that the Creator originally made man and woman for each other, male and female? 5 And because of this, a man leaves father and mother and is firmly bonded to his wife, becoming one flesh, no longer two bodies but one. 6 Because God created this organic union of the two sexes, no one should desecrate his art by cutting them apart." 7 They shot back in rebuttal, "If that's so, why did Moses give instructions for divorce papers and divorce procedures?" 8 Jesus said, "Moses provided for divorce as a concession to your hardheartedness, but it is not part of God's original plan. 9 I'm holding you to the original plan, and holding you liable for adultery if you divorce your faithful wife and then marry someone else. I make an exception in cases where the spouse has committed adultery." 10 Jesus 'disciples objected, "If those are the terms of marriage, we're stuck. Why get married?" 11 But Jesus said, "Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn't for everyone. 12 Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked, or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you're capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it."

Food for thought

"Why get married?" This is the question asked not only by the disciples of Jesus but by everyone everywhere every time. And thanks to Jesus we now know the answer: because the Creator originally made man and woman for each other, male and female He created them. This means that God made men for women, and women for men; it means that in every man there's a love for woman, and in every woman there's a love for man. It means that it is natural to love; that love and loving are inherently built in us, all of us. And we should not be ashamed of love and loving.
"And because of this, a man leaves father and mother and is firmly bonded to his wife, becoming one flesh, that's, no longer two bodies but one. Because God created this organic union of the two sexes, no one should desecrate his art by cutting them apart."
God made marriage! Marriage is a godly thing; it comes from the hands of God. Marriage is not and should neither be imposed nor obliged on anybody. To marry or not to marry is a personal decision. Nobody should force anybody to marry; nobody should force anybody not to marry. And once married, nobody should force anybody to end marriage. The husband cannot force the wife to end marriage, and the wife cannot force the husband to end marriage. Whoever does so, is held liable for adultery.
As mentioned above, everybody has interest in marriage, even the disciples of Jesus. As Jesus was explaining to the Pharisees, the twelve disciples were listening attentively. When they got the chance to talk, they joined in: "If those are the terms of marriage, we're stuck. Why get married?" The disciples are suggesting that if marriage is as Jesus says marriage is, if marriage is such, it is better not to marry at all. This is a misconception of marriage; they had misunderstood Jesus. No one should NOT marry because of marriage problems; single life is not meant to be a flight from marriage problems. It is, as Jesus said, because someone "is not mature enough to live a married life." We cannot be good for everything in life.

Marriage, says Jesus, "requires a certain aptitude and grace". In other words, "Marriage isn't for everyone". Although everybody CAN marry, not everybody SHOULD marry. Because, as Jesus said, "Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons." But if you're capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it.